aRt oF gIvInG...

aRt oF gIvInG...

We have definitely seen people fighting over a Rupee to an Auto rickshaw wala!!! Even We do the same, and also bargain like anything to a vegetable vendor and also sit on long day hunger strike when government raises the petrol price. That’s quite obvious; in fact We should definitely Do the same as money is Earned by Our Hard Work. But do we think Twice before we donate a penny to Someone, how the money will actually be Used? There is definitely a Motive while we donate, It’s obviously the need of the opposite Person, a social cause and the donation is generally made to a Weaker section or Weaker group of audience.

Few Days while travelling back, in a Local compartment, I saw a Lady beggar handicapped having no eye sight, she had a wooden stick in her hand, while other hand making sound with few coins and singing some holy song to win few more coins. Within minutes she traversed the complete compartment and might have collected somewhere near 15 to 30 INR.  I Felt Pity, not for the beggar lady, but for the useless people who donated without Identifying the Need.  Trust me NO one there actually bothered about the presentation of that lady beggar. Her physical appearance nowhere indicated a NEED of money…  Colorful bangles, new wooden stick, decent ear rings, average floaters, and a much decent outfit... She was absolutely Not in a Need of Money, and people just kept on Giving, as some stupid started the chain, others were just driven by emotion or kindness... I couldn’t decide who was correct? Whether the people who gave without bothering the Actual Need or the Lady who just seemed Addict of Begging. I am focusing for Need based donation and an effective donation. Why to GIVE when RECEIVING GROUP has ALREADY in EXCESS?

In a conversation last month with one of my friend, on account of some good news in his family, he gave away 10 rupee to a beggar near by a temple... I asked him, did he make sure the money was utilized for right cause?? He was clueless. Problem with people these days is they have misunderstood the concept of Giving. I am not talking philosophical or about philanthropy. It’s a simple equation; if I am hungry, water cannot suffice my hunger. What I wish to say is when people are required to GIVE, they don’t GIVE and loose the opportunity. However when they themselves want to give, they give irrespective of the Need and even without a RATIONAL MOTIVE. Point is simple for what reason did you give your your time or your money should always be accounted and assurance i.e. feedback needs to be linked back to verify if the donation has benefited the recipient.

In this case of Lady Beggar, the receiver’s NEED was not high; the GIVING NEED was high. People who gave in money were unclear as in why Donation has been made?

Irrespective of Money, Blood Donation is most of common Donation camps across all metros, but still the rarest of blood is still Not available So Easily. Those people whose blood groups are found rare in market are either Unaware or are Not Interested in Donation. 

The most important is the Timing of a Donation / Giving. It should be absolutely timely dependent, as in when the NEED is there, only then Donation should be made.  It’s something like, In the train a seat donated to an old man or a needed person, else in Empty rake everyone prefer to hang on door rather than sitting on window.  A friend or Cousin asking for some huge ransom on account of some urgent shortage, and you don’t give due to any reason, whereas spend thousands on stupid luxury items.  I have also noticed a case where confectionary item was donated to set of poor people, and after the donor left the place, the confectionery item was re sold at a cheaper rate and money earned were used for some wrong purpose. Impact of donation should always be looped back to donor, to validate and verify if the expected change has been done or not...

This goes with a Kabir doha which says- Kabhi Pyase Ko Paani Pilaya Nahin, Baad Amrit Pilane Se Kya Faayda, Kabhi Girte Hue Ko Uthaya Nahi, Baad Aansoo Bahane Se Kya Faayada,